Bad luck about the paddle Mickey.
As you've discovered there are some negatives with the tramps. The worst as far as I'm concerned is not being able to use the paddle when needed. If you remember at JB I tested rowing the AI out using the rowlocks I added forward of the gear pockets. It was possible to row with the paddle halved and under the tramps -though I wouldn't want to travel too far rowing it. Others reported sitting in the cargo well and paddling to be OK.
I actually found it easier to get in by sitting on the tramp and pivoting/swinging over into the seat. Jason found it easier using this method as well.
As far as rolling them up on the water I have done it by unclipping the tramp then collapsing the aka to bring it closer.
I have yet to capsize it with the tramps. I like to lean/hike out when I can and I always throw some tethered drybags/gear out onto the windward tramp. I make sure the tramp is tightened properly so it catches less wind. In strong winds I furl the sail when the lee ama begins to submerge.
I reckon the positives outweigh the negatives but tramps on the AI aren't for everybody, however on the TI they are essential for getting the most out of the boat IMHO.