I asked in my into post but got no replies so -
Is there a preferred order of raising the mast on my Wave that will let me easily get the tension I need on the forward and side stays?
I am rigging alone most of the time ans even with help I would not call it easy. I am able to get the third hole up front and third on each side, but it still seems too slack, especially if the wind drops off And the waves are still kicking. I get enough slop that I am concerned that it is putting too much stress on the attach points on the hull from the side stays.
There's your trouble......You don't want the rig to be tight. It should have enough looseness so when you grasp a shroud, you can turn your hand 90 degrees.
That is the basic racing tension. For day sailing you can tighten it up a little , but never so tight you can't easily put the pin in without straining yourself.
Now go have fun.